2014: Don’t Say I Didn’t Warn You

2014 Tips

This year, I did not resolve to do anything specific. The plan is to just stay on the path of growth and success in as many areas of life as I can manage. I am often asked for advice and so I decided to share some of the gems and things I find worth following or trying to live up to.

Your Problems 

  • Before you begin to twist our mouth to complain, I hope you have a plan.
  • Acknowledge your role in the status of your life right now.
  • Understand that the unofficial definition of insanity is performing the same action while expecting a different result each time.
  • It’s OK to have a private life and keeps things to yourself despite how revealing others are to you.
  • Let go? It may take a long time, and include layers, but you can do it.
  • If you aren’t ready to let go, try to keep the ongoing issues to yourself as to not frustrate those who care about you.
  • Don’t act like anyone else owes you anything because they don’t.


  • Relax.
  • If you don’t work on you, or do things you’ve never done, where do you expect to be?
  • Be realistic about your worth.
  • Don’t take less than it.
  • Sorry, don’t settle. That’s my story and I’m sticking to it.
  • Everyone in your life isn’t meant to be there forever. Think: Reason, Season, Lifetime.
  • Don’t feel that you have to identify as anything for anybody. Do what works for you.
  • You don’t have to divulge either.
  • In a new relationship? Nobody wants to see it all over the web. Because when you split, trust me, people are laughing at you.
  • You can’t force love. If it doesn’t fit, don’t force it. Square peg, round hole, don’t go.
  • Don’t bite off more than you can chew.
  • Posting or liking a bunch passive-aggressive relationship memes on Facebook is NOT the way to get someone. You’ll get their nerves…well, on them, at least.
  • Ladies, if you seem weak and vulnerable to the general public, trust me, a man will sniff that a mile away and take advantage. Game face at all times.
  • Just because you “feel” like doing it, doesn’t mean you should.
  • Just because someone else feels like you should be doing something, doesn’t mean you should.
  • Jesus is not a substitute for when you don’t have a significant other.
  • Je répète, Jesus is not a substitute for when you don’t have a significant other.
  • Maybe if you use Jesus to find a significant other and not as a replacement, you’ll be better off?
  • Dude, don’t let your woman take care of you. Dude, seriously.
  • Your friends don’t want to hear about your significant other or kids all of the time. Trust me they don’t. No, they are not jealous.
  • They just want to go back to talking about what you talked about before you started dating and procreating.
  • Quit faking the funk. The more you gush online, the more we know that you are lying or embellishing. Sad.
  • It’s OK to be private, seriously.
  • Divorce making you cool is corny. Stay true to yourself in relationships and always be a star, attached or unattached.
  • Give your whole life up for someone else if you want to. See where that leads.
  • Leave the past behind. Let it die. Take the lesson and file it away.
  • Want no parts of anyone dusting off their old black book. Move forward.
  • It’s okay to forgive and not forget, but you can’t forgive and continue to condemn. Deal or keep it moving.
  • Feelings are going to get hurt, make sure they’re not yours.
  • Relax?

Your Choices

  • They’re yours, remember?
  • Do not blame others for the ones YOU make.
  • Be aware of how your choices may directly affect others and I’m not talking about feelings. Think obligations and reliability.
  • Making different choices in your life does not give you the right to judge others because they are making different choices than you currently are.
  • YOLO?
  • So stop worrying about what everyone else is doing, or not doing, and do you.

Common Sense

  • Stop believing everything you see posted on your timeline and re-posting it.
  • Do a little research before attaching your good sensibilities to fodder and urban legends.
  • When people show you who they are, believe them. No, really.
  • Stop making excuses for piss-poor individuals. They will not change.
  • People do not change anyway, they will only get better or worse.
  • When you rely solely on someone else, they own you. Believe that.
  • Insecurity comes in many forms. Beware.
  • Be comfortable in your skin. When you are not, it’s pretty obvious.
  • Make a separate folder for all of your private photos. Thank me later.
  • Use a condom.
  • Grow up, if you haven’t done so already.

Tip of the year: Stay in your lane.



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